Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) is most notably used in the treatment of children with Autism Spectrum Disorders. But in truth, ALL children experience problem behaviors at some point in their lives - from the “terrible twos” to the rebellious teen years. This blog is designed to provide an overview of ABA and how it can be a useful tool for typically developing children, teenagers, and even your husband;)

Friday, February 10, 2012

Keep Your Cool!

Anyone seen the video Father Teaches Daughter Lesson About Facebook?  Of course you have, it's gone viral.  I see no need to post it here - you're welcome to Google it if you so desire.  Basically, his teenage daughter posted a rant on Facebook about how her parents treat her like a slave - insert several expletives.  The father, in turn, went to Youtube and posted his own video rant ending with placing 9 rounds from his handgun into her computer.  As someone said, we're likely to see their story on Dr. Phil soon!

I do not condone the behavior of this father.  While he was justifiably upset with his daughter, this was not the adult way to handle the situation.  He basically did the same thing his daughter did - went on a public forum to rant about someone who made him mad.  The difference?  Instead of using expletives, he used a gun (a lethal weapon) to get his point across.  Now I don't know about you, but I would avoid placing such a weapon into my own hands while upset.  He lost his cool.  He did not control his impulse to act on his angry thoughts.  As adults, it is important that we do this!  I guarantee you that in the face of an angry teen or grumpy preschooler when you keep your cool you will avoid further escalating your child's behavior.  It's not easy and it takes practice - lots of practice!     


  1. I had not heard about that one, I'm not sure where I've been. Well I guess we can see where the daughter learned how to deal with pressure, anger and resentment. Luckily when my husband and I had children we had done a lot of work on ourselves and our marriage before we had our kids. Good thing too since all three of our children have some kind of learning difference and our daughter has a severe brain disorder that effects all aspects of her development. There is a lot of stress and pressure along with a lot of laughter and wonder. Great to find your blog on voiceBoks. My daughter and youngest son went to a developmental preschool where although they were not in the ABA program there was a use of all kinds of learning systems to help each child reach their potential. How great to get to read someone who does this for a living! I'm happily following you now!

  2. Thanks for the follow, Kathy! Parenthood is certainly stressful at times. Undoubtedly even more so when your children have special needs. It's wonderful that you are so aware of your own behavior - that's a difficult task. Good luck to you and keep reading!